define abuse...

if it was sexual abuse, i would report them quick fast and in a hurry. ON top of that, i'd call the police, sheriff's office, state attorney's office, Big Mama, Pastor Jenkins, and Jesus Christ.


For other issues...

punching
kicking
verbally low-rating a kid,
not feeding, bathing, grooming a kid,
leaving them repeatedly unattended
putting a kid in dangerous situations
general inattentiveness due to drug use

I would try to get the entire family together to confront the abuser and get them to stop harming their child. They could suggest that the abuser take a parenting class, get some counseling, hiring some part time help, or whatever is necessary, BUT, i'd use DSS as leverage. The abuser should know that if the behavior continues it will indeed be turned over to DSS and that the family members will frequently check on the child.

The parent's relationship with the child is something that influences him forever.

In a heartbeat.

Yes. Not only would I report it but! I will find a child advocate/attorney and recommend removing the child from the home into foster care. If I KNEW for sure there was abuse. I think sometimes it is unfair to children to be abused and then returned to the home after the mother/father received parenting class. I think for the most part it's too late. The child will NEVER forget and will carry this feeling into adulthood. It is so much better to find an adequate home for the child and allow the child to heal and restart his/her life. I know children are far more forgiving and would want to go back to them home....but! The damage is already done to them and many times it cannot be undone. Some may say well after the parents receive the adequate training....then their should reunite. I feel when you decide to bring a child in the world, you have ONE time to do it right...otherwise why do it if you're not ready? It's not fair to child. When fock up that's sending the WRONG message to the child. Why should he/she be born to half-parents? For me....doesn't make sense. Birth control....birth control....birth control

When you abuse a child, it's abortion outside the womb and is why we have gangbangers and baby criminals....cuz parents have children for THE WRONG reasons and are not mature enough to raise them. Again. Why have 'em?

Abuse: "...to use wrongly or improperly; misuse....to treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way....to speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about; revile; malign....to commit sexual assault upon; rape....bad or improper treatment; maltreatment...to physically harm...."

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Originally posted by Wiz:
define abuse...

This reminds me of a funny skit by an Indian comedian named Russell Peters on the differences between white families' dynamics of of "discipline" and pretty much everybody else.

An Indian kid is being schooled by his white schoolmate on how to disobey his dad. He's told to say "eff you, Dad" when asked to do a chore. So he goes home, tries it, and after being told by his Dad "somebody's going to get it reaaaal baaad" (a typical Indian parental threat), gets beaten.

When he tells his white schoolmate the outcome, the schoolmate says "No, no, you gotta tell your Dad 'eff you' and that you're going to call the police on him if he touches you! Then he'll leave you alone."

So the next week, the Dad gives the boy a chore, to which the boy responds "eff you and if you touch me, I'm going to call the police!". The Dad replies, "Yeah sure go ahead. I'll help you dial. But I know something you don't know. It will take the police 23 minutes to get here, and in that 23 minutes - somebody's going to get it reaaaal baaad!" and then proceeds to beat the hell out of him.

Peters says that no one should ever take advice from white kids on how to evade discipline.

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Originally posted by shulamite:
This reminds me of a funny skit by an Indian comedian named Russell Peters on the differences between white families' dynamics of of "discipline" and pretty much everybody else.

An Indian kid is being schooled by his white schoolmate on how to disobey his dad. He's told to say "eff you, Dad" when asked to do a chore. So he goes home, tries it, and after being told by his Dad "somebody's going to get it reaaaal baaad" (a typical Indian parental threat), gets beaten.

When he tells his white schoolmate the outcome, the schoolmate says "No, no, you gotta tell your Dad 'eff you' and that you're going to call the police on him if he touches you! Then he'll leave you alone."

So the next week, the Dad gives the boy a chore, to which the boy responds "eff you and if you touch me, I'm going to call the police!". The Dad replies, "Yeah sure go ahead. I'll help you dial. But I know something you don't know. It will take the police 23 minutes to get here, and in that 23 minutes - somebody's going to get it reaaaal baaad!" and then proceeds to beat the hell out of him.

Peters says that no one should ever take advice from white kids on how to evade discipline.

That was cute...I saw something similar on an old rerun of Andy Griffith where a little boy new to the neighborhood got into trouble by Andy for riding his bike where he shouldn't have; he only got into trouble after Andy had repeatedly told him what NOT to do...and the boy disobeyed deliberately. The boy was showing Andy's child how to throw a temper tantrum to get his way. When the father saw what the boy had taught, he told Andy to excuse him while he took the boy to the outhouse to whip his behind...

LOL...

My son saw the fallacy of "falling out" in that episode.

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