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D3 |
Peace....
One of the most disturbing and bizarre behaviours of some women is "testing" their mate or prospective mate..In this scenario a woman will intentionally challenge the man, annoy him, aggravate him, or reject him, just to see what he will do...Now, the tricky thing here is that she is trying to determine what kind of man you are..So your response is crucial..If she is challenging you she probably wants you to subdue her in a "Masculine" way..You know, put your foot down hard..Yep... If you..The man... respond with uncertainty, confusion, or passiveness, you can forget about it..She has labeled you a punk or weak..She may never say anything about it..But she will lose alot of respect for you..Or as some call it you will lose "points".. Many civilized men have been taught to respect women, and to be gentle with a women, and so when she jumps up to challenge the man he may go out of his way to be calm, understanding, patient, and tolerant..you know, say things like "Sweet heart please calm down.."..Sounds good, but she may be thinking "He is such a damn punk". Let's say a women spots another man in publc..An attractive man..She may decide to flirt a little just to see what you will do once she intentionally tries to make you jealous..Let's say you blow it off and say to yourself, "she just likes to flirt, it harmless, I am not going to overreact and come off like the insecure jealous type"..  Ah Ah Ah...You will probably lose more points. In said scenario she probably wants to see you get upset..and claim her in front of the other guy..Grab her hand, or come close to her and call her "baby" or something like that..." He is too nice" "he is too much of a gentlemen" " He is too loving" " He is too understanding"..We have all heard this...Sometimes being bad is good...And being good is Bad... How is a man suppose to know when to be good or bad for that matter????? Oh hell..  Even God is confused on this one...You can only be bad when she wants you to, and she will not tell you in advance lest she ruin the situation.. She may want you to pull her hair one moment, and the next day she will pull aknife on you if you try to touch her hair..same hair style just a different day..I'll be honest this confuses the hell out of me.. Whirling Moat |
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Phoenix Rising |
Rolls eyes... good lord...
Shut up, Moat... ummm... that was woman "tricky" code speak for... Shut up.... Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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Peace...
Ahh...A test... Now, naturally I may be thinking.. "Sister your tone and manner is disrespectful, and I think you should re-evaluate how you speak to me..." Somrthing like that... But instead I have to make sure that I respond in a strong way like this WTF?? WHO THE %$#* YOU THINK YOU TALKIN TO LIKE THAT??... HUH?? HUH!!??? (raising my hand in a menacing way.)YOU BETTA ACK LIKE YOU GOT SOME GOTT DAMN RESPECT? Whirling Moat |
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Tasmanian Angel |
You know, Whirling Moat, it's interesting that you should bring this up. I just had this conversation with a couple of the guys in the chat room on Thursday!!
 While I can't divulge all trade secrets here in public (the ladies get real mad at me when I do  ) ... let me just say your best defense for this is to know it's coming (which you seem to have working for you - and unfortunately a lot of guys don't!)... and act upon you first best response (i.e., follow your first mind)!!If you're not sure what that is (i.e., you find yourself in a state of   )... choose the one you don't think is right!  BLACK by NATURE, PROUD by CHOICE. Before there was ANY history, there was BLACK history. |
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Peace....
 I knew there had to be trade secrets...Whirling Moat |
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Vanguard |
On the rare occasion that a woman does this to me, I don't even trip on her. I immediately go and find some other woman in the vicinity to talk to/flirt with. The message being, "If you want to go play with that dude, then go on and play. I'll have you replaced before the night is out."  Ubuntu - I am what I am, because of who we all are. "Peace is not merely the absence of tension, it is the presence of justice." - MLK www.PersonalSafetyInstitute.org |
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Phoenix Rising |
I agree with moving on... why go through all the analyzing and trying to make women to be all mysterious.. If she's with another man, she clearly doesn't want you... Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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D3 |
Peace...
I can see this.. I think the only problem it presents is that you are reacting to the illusion of her flirting since she doesn't really have much interest in the other guy in the aforementioned scenario, she is using him to get to know you. Now if she were actually interested in someone else, then hell yeah, there are more fish in the sea... Whirling Moat |
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Tasmanian Angel |
Yes ... but there's no instruction manual. BLACK by NATURE, PROUD by CHOICE. Before there was ANY history, there was BLACK history. |
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Are you talking about someone you just meet or someone you are in a relationship with, like the early stages or something?
Men like on occasion to beat their chests, so maybe it is just an opportunity to do so. The thing is, I would be true to me and any reaction or response would totally depend on how I was feeling at the time. I would like to say I would never be manipulated like that, but if a woman is attractive enough to me, I will do all kinds of shit and I know that about me. ON the other hand, if I am not attracted to her, then probably nothing. Knocking jockeys off the lawn for over 50 years |
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Vanguard |
And she *is* getting to know me. She's gets to know that flirting with other guys just opens the door for me to find her replacement. The longer she flirts with that dude, the more opportunities I have to find a woman who's into me and knows how to act. IMO, getting jealous and pulling the "that's my woman" thing only makes me look insecure, and I try not to let women bait me into looking foolish. But, I also won't sit there and pretend that it's ok for her to flirt with other guys in front of me. By refocusing my attention on another woman, she gets reminded that playing silly little games like that can get her quickly booted from the running because it only creates opportunities for her competition. Besides, Honey's reaction is always the same... Where's my man?... Who's that he's talking to?... Excuse me... and with that, dude is completely forgotten while she hustles off to protect her territory. The best way to deal with a woman misbehaving is to treat them like a child throwing a temper tantrum... just completely ignore them until they straighten up and come correct. Ubuntu - I am what I am, because of who we all are. "Peace is not merely the absence of tension, it is the presence of justice." - MLK www.PersonalSafetyInstitute.org |
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In my experience the only women that tested men were the dumb ones that do what their girlfriends give them the stamp of approval to do, which is usually the underhanded way women keep each other single--misery loves company. There's a big picture answer that will rectify all this ignorance. You see, if you pay close attention, women, erum, females that play stupid ass games like this are usually the ones that are perpetually single, can't keep a man for more than a few minutes, and are always blaming everyone else for their downfalls but themselves.
The only way women like this can get and keep a boyfriend and possibly marry them is they finally figure out they need to shut the fuck up and let a man be a man. You want to know how to end all the stupid games? Blow her damn mind in bed--blow her mind repeatedly and on different levels of intensity. That way every time you're out in public and she thinks of trying to play one of them "testing" games she'll remember how you had her knees knocking from multiple orgasms and forget the games altogether. But you know there's always that one special (  ) woman that will still try a man anyway no matter how good the sex is. That's when she's dumb enough to think she's got a man sprung. You simply laugh at her and keep going or if you really want to fuck with her you respond to a female that's being flirtatious with you. That'll shut her ass up REAL quick. And if she acts the fool because you responded to a flirtatious woman you remind her of an ignorant occasion where she showed out to get attention. Of course all this foolishness can be avoided if you just tell her up front you're not down with being "tested". That shit never works anyway. The only men that fall for that bullshit are the dumbass ones nobody wants but women that have the goal of henpecking a guy after marriage.I'd rather be hated for what I am than loved for what I'm not. - Chuck D. |
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Phoenix Rising |
Women who play games are flaky...
And men who choose women who are flaky deserve the wasted time spent trying to analyze why they do what they do... In my experience... when a woman flirts with someone else.. it's because she has moved on... If you see her doing this.. move on too.. If you believe she's doing it to get to you, you could be wrong.. she could just be gone... If you are right and are still trying to figure her out, you deserve her and the silliness she brings.... stop calling your experience with your choice to choose silly women as "what women do"... just admit you haven't really been with one yet... Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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Peace....
Who are you directing this to??? Whirling Moat |
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Phoenix Rising |
To whomever it may concern... Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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D3 |
Peace...
I agree....... However, I actually figured this out years ago...The hard part is figuring out which women are flaky before you ever waste time engaging them. Women, like men, tend to put their best foot forward when seeking to attract a mate..I guess this is all part of the game.. Most people are liars at the very beginning of a relationship. They are not honest about who they are, what they are, or what their true intentions are. They just want to get close enough to hopefully infect you with a deep connection which later allows the truth to come out with very little collateral damage to the bond. "You never told me that you used to be a serial killer", "You never told me that you used to be a man" "You never told me that you havc 6 children by 7 different men"... Part of the art of choosing a good mate is spotting the flaky types before they cross the threshold, I am pretty good at that, however, from time to time, I like to give back to them what they wish to give to me. Just to show them that they aren't the only one with game... Whirling Moat Whirling Moat |
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She's trying to direct her post at me.  But what she fails to realize is that every young man should take some time to "analyze" a "flakey" woman so as to make their selection process that much easier in the long run. Even if a man has a good idea of what a "flakey" woman is it helps to have first person experience. If you know what to look out for while engaging in your pursuit of happiness it makes the time you spend looking for happiness a lot less stressful. Another thing women don't want the general populus of men to know is that there are a lot more "silly" or childish women out there than they want you to believe, otherwise, the divorce rate wouldn't be above 50% and you wouldn't hear so many women crying wolf--complaining about there being no good men left but when they find a good man they always make the disfunctional excuse that he's "too nice" or "too much of a gentleman" or some other irrational "flakey" excuse to hide the fact that they base their attraction to a potential mate on what other women think is an ideal mate or what they read in a romance novel or a character in a daily soap. A lot of women don't want men to find out that many of them (women) actually don't have their romantic lives figured out. Sorry, ladies but being stuck in an abusive, neglectful, dead end relationship just to say you have a man does not count as a relationship/marriage in my book. And brainwashing yourselves into thinking having a child out of wedlock with no possibility of marrying the biological father is "the most precious gift" is a load of shit too. Don't get me wrong. Everyone makes mistakes but when a woman is determined to catch a man through becoming pregnant or thinking she can make a man grow up by having his child or marrying him she will lose every time. The point is, men need to have limited exposure to "silly" women and take notes so they will learn what they DON'T want in a potential mate as well as focus more on what they DO want. Many women should interact with the same mindset instead of falling for the first guy that strokes them the right way or trying to make a man someone that he isn't. I've had my share of first person experiences with "flakey" females but that was back in college and during my early twenties when I made the transition from college life to the real world. I learned what I needed to learn from them and moved on. Fooling with them as well as other personality types helped me to narrow my focus on the type of personality traits a woman possesses that best suits my needs. I'd rather be hated for what I am than loved for what I'm not. - Chuck D. |
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Phoenix Rising |
Good.... Then there really was no need for this question:
Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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That's the beautiful part about finding yourself. Once you've found yourself and you know who you are, then you'll develop confidence in who you are. Whatever the case may be you will know that your personality characteristics will only attract a certain kind of woman and you will accept that, which means being open to the woman that's right for you instead of chasing after some chick just because she's fine. And if you've developed your senses to detect those traits that are undesirable in a potential mate you've won half the battle. The tough part is waiting for that right woman to come along. Do you abstain until you come across the right woman or do you go through a series of superficial encounters with females until you come across the right one? Some men prefer to have a little fling from time to time while others choose celibacy. Society discourages men to be celibate. You keep to yourself and people start thinking you're gay or strange because people are so used to men, particularly, black men, being promiscuous and leaving a string of fatherless children all over town. The point is, if you've done the best you can to know yourself and have confidence in yourself the right woman will accept you for who you are. Therefore, there is no "good" or "Bad" way to act. She will want you for who you are. I'd rather be hated for what I am than loved for what I'm not. - Chuck D. |
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