Peace...

What do you do when you have a beautiful female friend/coworker who cannot keep her hands off of you?

Let us say that she is groping you but in a playful and friendly way...When she greets you she asks for hugs, and when she hugs she sometimes plants kisses on your cheek, and when she is feeling really silly she gives you a kiss on the neck....

She catches you off guard and playfully jumps on your back, or jumps on you from the front and wraps her legs around your waist ....

She whispers gossip about coworkers in your ears...she talks to you almost face to face, smiling, laughing, and staring into your eyes..She is so close that just talking to her means that you will leave smelling like her perfume...

She sips your morning coffee, and sometimes she feeds you spoon fulls of her food..I mean she literally feeds it to you by placing the spoon full of food into your mouth..

In her mind she is just being playful and friendly..but...she is beautiful, and you are a man after all...What do you do to avoid the inevitable???



Kai

There are only two answers to this question and you know both of them.

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What do you do to avoid the inevitable???

Not a damned thing. She wants to get with you ... and because you asked the question, you eant to get with her.

Have at it kid.

Peace....

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There are only two answers to this question and you know both of them

Oh..Naw...It isn't me in this scenario...This question arises from a conversation I was having Yesterday with someone. The thing is that the woman in this scenario is already in a committed relationship and by all appearances she seems to be happy in the relationship.


Kai

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Originally posted by Saracen:
Peace...

What do you do when you have a beautiful female friend/coworker who cannot keep her hands off of you?

Let us say that she is groping you but in a playful and friendly way...When she greets you she asks for hugs, and when she hugs she sometimes plants kisses on your cheek, and when she is feeling really silly she gives you a kiss on the neck....

She catches you off guard and playfully jumps on your back, or jumps on you from the front and wraps her legs around your waist ....

She whispers gossip about coworkers in your ears...she talks to you almost face to face, smiling, laughing, and staring into your eyes..She is so close that just talking to her means that you will leave smelling like her perfume...

She sips your morning coffee, and sometimes she feeds you spoon fulls of her food..I mean she literally feeds it to you by placing the spoon full of food into your mouth..

In her mind she is just being playful and friendly..but...she is beautiful, and you are a man after all...What do you do to avoid the inevitable???

Kai

I've read the post twice and am still trying to figure out what the issue is.

ok, the sipping of the coffee could be a bit much, but otherwise... lean wit it, rock wit it. lol

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Originally posted by Saracen:
Peace....

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There are only two answers to this question and you know both of them

Oh..Naw...It isn't me in this scenario...This question arises from a conversation I was having Yesterday with someone. The thing is that the woman in this scenario is already in a committed relationship and by all appearances she seems to be happy in the relationship.


Kai

First, IMO this is completely inappropriate behavior for a workplace. If I was her supervisor, I would have a serious talk with her about decorum.

Secondly, if I was the recipient of such behavior, I would need to clarify the nature of our relationship. It is possible that she is oblivious to what her actions may be communicating to "you."

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In her mind she is just being playful and friendly..but...she is beautiful, and you are a man after all...What do you do to avoid the inevitable???

1) Because she is a woman, you have no idea what is in her mind. In fact, SHE has no idea about what is in her mind. The mind of a woman is a maze like super computer designed to confuse you, her, and anyone trying to figure out what is going on. Even if you asked her what is going on, she can't give you an intelligent answer.

2) The two answers are; a) make it plain to her that the close talking, coffee sipping shit is inappropriate - and do so in writing and carbon copy the memo to Human Resources and management. b) say nothing, get some loving, get caught, face sexual harrassment charges, get fired, and be the ulitmate bad guy.

Maybe it's just me, but I would have a very difficult time trusting the motives of a woman at work engaging in this kind of stuff. I'm with Kresge and Shango on this one.

Peace....

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) Because she is a woman, you have no idea what is in her mind. In fact, SHE has no idea about what is in her mind. The mind of a woman is a maze like super computer designed to confuse you, her, and anyone trying to figure out what is going on. Even if you asked her what is going on, she can't give you an intelligent answer.

I am starting to realize this...

Men are from Mars....Women are from Venus but they swear they are from Mars too...

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and do so in writing and carbon copy the memo to Human Resources and management.

This is hilarious...

I think some women just don't understand how the whole 'If you wrap your legs around me then we are no longer just friends thing" really works..In her mind she may be treating you like a big brother, or an uncle, or just a close male friend...Women touch one another at work, they give each other massages and they even go to the restroom together..I think women just don't understand that you cannot have this kind of closeness with a man without raising his antennaes..

I don't know if I would go as far as reporting her to Management, but, somehow I would have to find a way to break it to her that either we are going to be in bed together or she is going to have to have back up a little..

But, Shango, I think that you are right, because there is a good chance that she will stand there after hearing what I have to say and say something like "Damn, I wasn't trying to come on to you..I thought we were cool.." After which you go away confused and wondering if you unneccesarily insulted a beatiful woman who wasn't doing anything except adding spice to your day...



Kai

for those who need it...

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The thing is that the woman in this scenario is already in a committed relationship and by all appearances she seems to be happy in the relationship.

And there is the OTHER problem. I don't know about ANY of the OTHER brothers who post here, but imagine your wife, girl, partner is going off to work and pulling the kind of foolishness outlined in the above scenario.

I went with a former girlfriend to one of her job's annual christmas parties.... she was working for a large union here in NYC. At the end of the night, we were on the coat line... I excused myself to the bathroom, returned and found her OVER LAUGHING in the face of one of her male co-workers. As she was OVER LAUGHING, he had one hand around her shoulder in some type of YOKE... AND she had her OPENED hand gingerly resting on his chest. The mood drastically changed as I approached.

All I know is this....

My future wife - wherever she is now - is only allowed to work from home.

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Originally posted by Shango67:
All I know is this....

My future wife - wherever she is now - is only allowed to work from home.

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Originally posted by Saracen:
Peace...

What do you do when you have a beautiful female friend/coworker who cannot keep her hands off of you?

Let us say that she is groping you but in a playful and friendly way...When she greets you she asks for hugs, and when she hugs she sometimes plants kisses on your cheek, and when she is feeling really silly she gives you a kiss on the neck....

She catches you off guard and playfully jumps on your back, or jumps on you from the front and wraps her legs around your waist ....

She whispers gossip about coworkers in your ears...she talks to you almost face to face, smiling, laughing, and staring into your eyes..She is so close that just talking to her means that you will leave smelling like her perfume...

She sips your morning coffee, and sometimes she feeds you spoon fulls of her food..I mean she literally feeds it to you by placing the spoon full of food into your mouth..

In her mind she is just being playful and friendly..but...she is beautiful, and you are a man after all...What do you do to avoid the inevitable???



Kai

an exaggeration....

most women do not act like this at work... no woman I know wraps her legs around a man unless she wants more than playful dialogue....

not if she's sane... (then that would beg the question as to why this man is hanging out with insane women- hmmm....)

and one cannot wrap their legs around a man unless...

he wants them to....

saracen reading this scenario has made me think a little about my own actions with men. I'm always one to say men sometimes misinterpret my friendliness as flirting, but i've never really tried to look at it from their perspective. I can see myself doing some of the things you described to a man (aside from kissing him on the neck and feeding him)and not necessarily be interested in anything romantic with him because when i am really comfortable with a person i can be pretty touchy feely.
When you said:
"I think some women just don't understand how the whole 'If you wrap your legs around me then we are no longer just friends thing" really works..In her mind she may be treating you like a big brother, or an uncle, or just a close male friend...Women touch one another at work, they give each other massages and they even go to the restroom together..I think women just don't understand that you cannot have this kind of closeness with a man without raising his antennaes."

I would have to agree with this statement 100%. As a woman this may be whats going on in my mind when i act this way oblivious to what it is bringing up in your mind.

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As a woman this may be whats going on in my mind when i act this way oblivious to what it is bringing up in your mind.

Right.


"I only wanted to be his friend. I swear your honor."

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In her mind she is just being playful and friendly..but...she is beautiful, and you are a man after all...What do you do to avoid the inevitable???

This statement doesn't make since.

This scenario makes me first want to know how old are these people? To me, this sounds like a dilemma for couple of 9th graders.


In her mind she is just being playful and friendly?? Who in their right minds thinks that this behavior is "just playful and friendly"?

She obviously doesn't have a clue about proper behavior between "friends" or between "co-workers."

Then again, we could have an instance of a man who is clueless himself and doesn't know when a women is trying to get with him

Either way it's a little sad...

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Originally posted by MidLifeMan:


In her mind she is just being playful and friendly?? Who in their right minds thinks that this behavior is "just playful and friendly"?

She obviously doesn't have a clue about proper behavior between "friends" or between "co-workers."

Gotta agree with this. I am always shocked and amused at people who don't know how to behave in a work environment. She shounds like she's on a date, not at work. And how is she in a relationship but feeing some man at work food and drinking his coffee from the same cup. That is NOT okay.