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Phoenix Rising |
What are the criterion? If you are an avowed bachelor, what kind of woman do you believe would make you seriously consider marriage? Has certain characteristics in a woman made you rethink the idea of marriage? Have you had your heart set on one kind of woman only to find yourself marrying someone completely different?
If you are completely against the idea of marriage, and you feel there are one or more qualities (societal or personal) that would get you to reconsider marriage, what would they be? I am asking those who see marriage or the possibility of marriage as useful..... Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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A1 |
 A few weeks ago, you seemed to think we were pimps.
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A1 |
Here's a preliminary answer off top of head... subject to later refining/additions.
1. Very far above average intelligence, both in terms of "what she knows" and in terms of analytical/reasoning abilities. 2. The lack of pretension. 3. Priorities in life based on transcendent criteria instead of the "social mirror" or materialism (not to say she doesn't want things; just that she doesn't focus on that as a basis for measurement, judgment, and activity to revolve around). 4. Day-brightening, open, fun personality. 5. Lover of affection. 6. More attractive physically than most women I will lay eyes on during the average week. (applying my flame-resistant material for later comments...  )7. Cares about issues going on around her that don't necessarily directly affect her day to day existence. 8. Has compatible taste in music, and in entertainment generally, to mine (I have no idea why this is so important, but experience tells me it is!). 9. Argument style about coming to the right answer, not about "winning" at all costs... 10. Emotional maturity. (related to 9). There may be others. But I gotta go to work... ____________________________________________________ |
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A1 |
1. Peace (which comes from an understanding of God and self)
2. Conscious Priorities (and I'm nowhere near the bottom of the list) 3. Assertive respect -------------------------------------------- If I'm attracted to her, and she has those 3 things... Here comes the bride. Problem is, can't quite get ALL OF THE ABOVE. It's like I'm playing spades... I've run into nothing but "one and a possible". THAT TYPE OF HONESTY IS BELOW MY PAYGRADE. |
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Phoenix Rising |
Brothers, such as yourself who create threads promoting pimping women seems to engender a response that way... go figure... Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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Phoenix Rising |
Contrarily... I find this is slightly reasonable... your attractive leanings are important... I think some react to the the criteria used to determine this.... and how honest one is within themselves as to how easily led astray they may be when they encounter one more beautiful than the one they have chosen.... as relationships naturally involve some amount of tension that may detract from one's beauty.... Salaam... Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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Phoenix Rising |
I was curious if men ever have lists like women do popping in their heads... I used to... I pretty much know what I want when it is in my presence nowadays... though... and I was curious as how a male perspective would evaluate the concept of settling down with a woman... I must say some of the responses are refreshing...  Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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A1 |
Yeah, but anyone who has actual "criteria" to determine physical attraction too many issues to be trying to get married anyway... Physical attraction should be organic and without any conscious effort, unless you've 1) identified a problem with your leanings and 2) internalized the solution so deeply that you honestly, honestly have changed your leanings. You're doing no one any favors in the long run by claiming to be attracted to someone you're not really happy with. True, but that's where the other things, like "emotional maturity" and such, should take over. You can't control for these future problems in the beginning. Each person has to be honest about themselves, their weaknesses, and their capabilities. ____________________________________________________ |
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Phoenix Rising |
I agree... but as we live in a society that tends towards the shallow.... and men have a reputation, in this country, especially with spouting decisions based off of altruistic notions but making final decisions based off shallow desires.... I thought I'd add the caveat... Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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A1 |
maybe that a judgment that you made based off of your pre-loaded opinion of black men. I don't think any pimps are members of this board, if they are they must be hiding it very well
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C4 |
Why invent the wheel? Me too! ************************* I don't believe that for a minute! |
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Phoenix Rising |
No.. you really do begin threads advocating pimping women.. and its true, there has been little to no response from other men on the board responding in opposition.... in fact a few have joined in.... Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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Phoenix Rising |
Completely curious question... have any of you ever did comparison studies of other societies and how they go about finding mates?
Also, have you ever come close to finding someone that you felt you could be happy with? What happened...? For divorcees.. Umm... I'm not referring to past marriages... I suppose I'm asking about relationships after a divorce... Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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Tasmanian Angel |
Oooookaaaay!! So, what time do I show up at the church/mosque/temple/chapel/JP/makeshift setting in the park/or whateva ... sweet cakes!?!   BLACK by NATURE, PROUD by CHOICE. Before there was ANY history, there was BLACK history. |
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A1 |
pimping women?? I don't believe that is true. Maybe there is a misunderstanding of terms...are you saying that I have posted thread topics that encourage men to buy a convertible cadillac and a fur lined coat [with matching top hat] and hire hookers for the criminal act of prostitution?? I don't remember posting such things.
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Phoenix Rising |
 Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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A1 |
can you show me a link that shows that I posted such thing??
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Phoenix Rising |
You disgust me RR.... do your own leg work... I tried to drop it... but you just disgust me.. please know that from now on I will simply cease engaging you.... pimp on playa... Peace, Khalliqa "The Goddess emerges as the evanescence of the inferior dissipates.... " |
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C3 |
I am soon to be married and the major charactertistics that caught my attention:
1. Physically attractive. 2. Has to have common sense and share the same values as I do; including the ability to make intelligent decisions. 3. I have to be able to see her as the mother of my children (Sometimes you can date a woman and if you dread the thought of having a kid with her, then she is probably not YOUR idea of wife material). |
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A1 |
Church?  MOSQUE?!?  TEMPLE?!?  j/k... The J.P. will be just fine, baby...  ____________________________________________________ |
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