I remember having a discussion about this a while back but here it goes again. How has the experience been for any of you brothers who have dated sistas who are not born in America, Ie Carribean, Central, South America, or Africa. What were the simularities and what were the differences from american born african women??

African Women: They're number one on my list. In my opinion, African women – as in born and raised in South Africa , as opposed to African American women – are some of the most desirable women on the face of the earth. Contrary to popular belief, a belief (or should I say stereotype?) that black women are confrontational, angry, gold diggers, emasculating, argumentative etc. African women can be surprisingly submissive. I venture further to say that many African women are very respectful of men, mannerable, attentive, loving, and sincere. I've also found many African women to be very personable, friendly, and gregarious.

They have a tendency to fall for a good man relatively quickly without any reservations or drama and be dedicated to the man they˜re with. African women will not give a man the runaround. If an African woman is not interested in you she's going to let you know very abruptly with her body language. If she doesn't laugh at you or ignore you she'll definitely walk away from you. But if she senses there's chemistry between you and her she'll be locked on you like a heat-seeking missile. I've dated African women from Zimbabwe , Tanzania , Kenya , Ghana , and Zaire but the one nationality of African women I'm most attracted to are Ethiopian women. Ethiopian women have an exotic almost extraterrestrial Beauty that is unlike any other women on Earth.

Their skin is usually a rich honey brown or a tannish cocoa butter hue, large oval eyes, thick, silky hair, a very small nose and wonderfully full lips as if they were going to burst with Mango juice. They have a very small bone structure, which is the reason for dramatic body lines - a tiny neck, like the twig of a tree, a very small waist, perfectly sculpted hips and thighs and a perfectly round forehead. Their facial features are large, almond-shaped dark brown eyes, protruding cheekbones, and extraordinarily white teeth. All of these physical features are clearly indistinguishable from any other nationality of African women. Upon first contact, if an Ethiopian woman is attracted to you she's going to smile right away. She's going to be flirtatious yet maintain her poise.

They maintain eye contact and are comfortable being in close proximity to a man. Many Ethiopian women aren't shy or bashful at all. If they find you interesting they will make direct eye contact with you even if it's just in passing at a mall or other public place. One thing you do have to look out for, though, is to keep your distance if the Ethiopian female you're interested in travels with her mom. And many young Ethiopian women, particuarly, between the ages of 19 to late twenties. Ethiopian mothers can be very protective of their daughters, which means you'll have to find out how to get to her through a friend.

Caribbean Women (i.e. Jamaica , Dominican Republic , and Haiti ): It's a toss up here with me. Whether I got a lot of play from a Caribbean woman or no play at all I've never had any good luck with them. First of all, most of them are caught up in this fallacy that they aren't black. Secondly, they have this uncanny ability to zero in on the worst of the worst dudes a human female could be involved with. This, in turn, gives them the dysfunctional state of mind that leads many of them to pursue, as well as stay with, the craziest, tyrannical, chauvinistic, barbaric, unreasonable, ignorant of men. Of all the Caribbean women I've had the pleasure of becoming romantically involved with, some of these women have actually had complaints about my endowment - one.

Now, I'm a good eight-and-a-half to nine inches (nine if I'm really into the woman I'm with and I˜ve been working out on a regular basis) but a couple of these females have actually alluded to the notion that they prefer bigger dicks!! Far be it for me to complain. Hey, I ain't hating in the least. If a woman thinks she needs 12 inches or longer to get her rocks off, then more power to you. But you have to think for a moment. If a dude with a dick the length of my forearm was so great what the hell are you all the way over here in the states sweating me for? I ain't mad – I'm just sayin'. Anyways, many Caribbean women can be some of the most unpredictable, difficult to deal with, two-faced, untrustworthy, back-stabbing, arrogant females on the face of the earth.

interesting post Now the Ethiopian Sistas, I have to agree, when they look good, they look good and the bodies lord!! But some of them look like the could be Worfs wife and a member of the Kleon family from Star Trek, im joking, but its true!! Yacub had to have been Ethiopian!!

As far as the Carribbean sistas, and the 12inch package, thats a little puzzling, maybe its just the ones you happen to run into. A lot of sistas in the states are on that too, you know if you have been in a relationsip with a farm animal for sometime, the normal guy may not cut it, lol, thats just life

But the rest of the post is interesting

When I went on Dates with a Nigerian dude and met his friends, they were very polite and charming. They didn't have any of that bitter, Dominating, over coddled mama's boy attitude that american black men can have.

I admire the outlook on life that a Sierra Leonian coworker of mine has. He always looks on the bright side of things and never, ever demeans black women. I've never heard him say negative things about women in general and he has a simplicity about him that is very elegant i must say.


It is kool to get outside the normal egotistical black norman bates american psychos and experience true respect and admiration.

It's great to have dating options, isn't it?

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Originally posted by ZAKAR:
I remember having a discussion about this a while back but here it goes again. How has the experience been for any of you brothers who have dated sistas who are not born in America, Ie Carribean, Central, South America, or Africa. What were the simularities and what were the differences from american born african women??

I know a lot of sisters on AA.org are going to throw a fit but sisters are always throwing a fit about conversations like this. In my personal experience I can say the most distinct difference between foreign sisters and American sisters is the respect for black men. A significant proportion of American sisters I've encountered simply had little or no respect for black men, no real concept of how to interact with a brother and seemed to think they had to be confrontational or argumentative with a man.

On the other hand, in my experiences with foreign sisters, I've found them to be very respectful, full of self-confidence, refreshingly sincere and trustworthy. With many of the foreign sisters I've dated I kneew exactly where I stood when in a relationship with them. However, with some American sisters I got the runaround, games, temper tantrums, mood swings, ultimatums and a competative mentality. Whereas with foreign sisters they expect a man to be a man, therefore, they support their men rather than challenge them or test them.

Something I think some American sisters can learn from foreign sisters is how to trust their own intuition and instincts. Somehow, African sisters seem to be able to tell when a brother is on the up and up and when he's shadey. African sisters don't usually waste their time with shadey dudes unless they're into allowing themselves to be westernized in order to be accepted. You don't want to get mixed up with females like that because the second they feel like America isn't working for them they'll book the first flight back home somewhere in Africa or at a relative's home in London. Your best bet would be to get with an African sister that still connected to her roots and will not allow her morals and values to be tainted by western culture.

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Originally posted by negrospiritual:
When I went on Dates with a Nigerian dude and met his friends, they were very polite and charming. They didn't have any of that bitter, Dominating, over coddled mama's boy attitude that american black men can have.

I admire the outlook on life that a Sierra Leonian coworker of mine has. He always looks on the bright side of things and never, ever demeans black women. I've never heard him say negative things about women in general and he has a simplicity about him that is very elegant i must say.


It is kool to get outside the normal egotistical black norman bates american psychos and experience true respect and admiration.

It's great to have dating options, isn't it?

HA HA HA HA!!!! Is that right, negrospiritual? Last I heard, except for one Nigerian brother that's married to a former co-worker of mine, every American sister I know of that married a Nigerian brother ended up in a bitter divorce. Those brothers can be some of the most arrogant, domineering dudes.

Oh, and those BLack Puerto Rican Dudes?


So sexy and they cook! and family, home, and love means everything to them.

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Originally posted by Romulus Burnett:

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Originally posted by negrospiritual:
When I went on Dates with a Nigerian dude and met his friends, they were very polite and charming. They didn't have any of that bitter, Dominating, over coddled mama's boy attitude that american black men can have.

I admire the outlook on life that a Sierra Leonian coworker of mine has. He always looks on the bright side of things and never, ever demeans black women. I've never heard him say negative things about women in general and he has a simplicity about him that is very elegant i must say.


It is kool to get outside the normal egotistical black norman bates american psychos and experience true respect and admiration.

It's great to have dating options, isn't it?

HA HA HA HA!!!! Is that right, negrospiritual? Last I heard, except for one Nigerian brother that's married to a former co-worker of mine, every American sister I know of that married a Nigerian brother ended up in a bitter divorce. Those brothers can be some of the most arrogant, domineering dudes.

not the ones i've known Except for that whole dress pants and sandals thing, they were sexy, charming, intelligent, and respectful. I agree that black women need to try out some other types of brothas. There are other options out there!!!

I love how the Caribbean brothas talk, I don't care what Island they from.... Just gently caress my name with that accent please!

Might not have worked for Stella but I'll take 1 groove to go please


They don't seem to have that unweened breast fed adult/god complex thing so rampant in american males...

know of that married a Nigerian brother ended up in a bitter divorce. Those brothers can be some of the most arrogant, domineering dudes

Well alot of brothers I know who are not american born who marry African American sistas have horrific stories to tell. Many of these sistas marry these men then take them for everything, houses,children, alamony all that its sad. One of my closet buddies who is Hatian just got burnt by this sista who i thought was cool. He bought a house worked two jobs great father to their son, I mean this brother really hustled. He even helped pay for her to go back to Howard after the baby, But guess what she didnt want to cook, wash, or anything. Finally out of the blue, this brother gets served papers at his job. Mind you he had been sleeping with this sista for a whole month while she had filed papers as well sued for custody. Then on top of that this sista did all types of cruel things to seperate him from his son, its cold!!

I'd just as soon leave this as a "men only" thread.

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Originally posted by ZAKAR:
know of that married a Nigerian brother ended up in a bitter divorce. Those brothers can be some of the most arrogant, domineering dudes

Well alot of brothers I know who are not american born who marry African American sistas have horrific stories to tell. Many of these sistas marry these men then take them for everything, houses,children, alamony all that its sad. One of my closet buddies who is Hatian just got burnt by this sista who i thought was cool. He bought a house worked two jobs great father to their son, I mean this brother really hustled. He even helped pay for her to go back to Howard after the baby, But guess what she didnt want to cook, wash, or anything. Finally out of the blue, this brother gets served papers at his job. Mind you he had been sleeping with this sista for a whole month while she had filed papers as well sued for custody. Then on top of that this sista did all types of cruel things to seperate him from his son, its cold!!

Damn! I've heard some nightmarish stories about shit like that happening with American brothers and Caribbean sisters, particularly, from the Dominican Republic and the Virgin Islands. These sisters come over here, attend small HBCU's and hook up with brothers while all along having a husband and kids back at home. I ran into a sister like that from the Virgin Islands. Luckily for me she was just for entertainment. Her husband and kid came over for her graduation and she evaded me like I had full blown AIDS the whole time they were here. When they left she showed up out of the blue with one of those 'let me explain' kind of stories. Yeah, I laughed and kept it moving. But from my experiences I don't trust Caribbean sisters at all any further than a pleasurable moment. Still, my experiences have been better with African sisters than with American sisters give or take one or two relationships.

yeah im watching Negro closely she may blow, lol

Puerto Rican sisters can be very interesting too. But the thing is you gotta catch one before some other dude gets to them and knocks em' up, which means you gotta catch one around about between the ages of 19 to 24. Any older and your chances are greater of running into one with 3 or 4 kids. It's about the same with mixed Canadian sisters. However, you'll have better chances of running into mixed Canadian sisters without kids than you will Puerto Rican sisters.

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Originally posted by ZAKAR:
yeah im watching Negro closely she may blow, lol

huh?

I'm in agreement

Options are nice

It's good for sistas to know they ain't gotta put up with all that bull ish. They can look around. add a little rum ripple and chocolate sprinkles

Well they are still our brothers and sistas as long as we keep it in the family , can you dig it, and a little ego stroking and food served to you, with a smile, lawd!

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Originally posted by ZAKAR:
I remember having a discussion about this a while back but here it goes again. How has the experience been for any of you brothers who have dated sistas who are not born in America, Ie Carribean, Central, South America, or Africa.

My wife is a Black woman from Colombia, and I have no complaints...

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What were the simularities and what were the differences from american born african women??

I've never dated an African American woman, so I can't say much about similarities and/or differences.



Plenty of differences between my wife and my ex, though...but that's a whole other story that I'd rather forget...

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Originally posted by negrospiritual:

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Originally posted by ZAKAR:
yeah im watching Negro closely she may blow, lol

huh?

I'm in agreement

Options are nice

It's good for sistas to know they ain't gotta put up with all that bull ish. They can look around. add a little rum ripple and chocolate sprinkles

It's good to know brothers don't have to put up with the bullshit either.

We're in agreement!

Options are muy caliente!

Mucho calor!

Exploring options is a great idea for brothas and sistas!

We right there -------><---------

Well alrighty then!

Pass the ketchup please. Thank you. I think I'd rather have Ranch dressing on my salad than Thousand Island. Is there any Kikoman soy sauce in the house? I love soy sauce on my steak.