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(First of all you guys, I know I am argueing against the status quo. I know Most of you don't agree with my position. Air out your position on monogamy
. Tell me why you feel its of valuable as a stablizer of the family in the wake of the situations of the black population, its females, its children and the crisis of the disappearing black male. whats our remedy for our problems? Why are we so vertically dismantled as a people? Does the dismantlement of the family not start with the basic family rules that we organize by? What if the rules we are organized by could be changed and we do economically and socially better as individuals and a sub-population? Are we so locked into white ways of thinking that we cannot expand the envelope of thinking and consider alternatives? How can we win or even compete if we are failing to consider alternatives? Pandora's Box has been opened on us and just how do we as black people really remove the ills that are set upon us?) ShayaButHer replies: Second, I don't have an "agenda" and I am not against Black Men. ShaSha, briefly, let me clear up some foul air between black men and black women. We have agendas. Don't start telling them sisters that there is such a thing as a pure motive. Wheither we see ourselves as instantaneously crafted beings in the image of a spiritual Lord, or genetic complexes driven by the drive to procreate, we have an agenda. If you say you don't have an agenda, then your agenda is covering up your agenda.You have a hidden agenda. You know I know you are well versed in the social world and I did say that you are a Ph.D candidate or did you recieve your degree? So I am keeping it short but to the point cause I know you will whip into dissertation mode by simply wiggling your nose. You may not feel you are against black men since in your league black women have cried about a male shortage. Mary Mitchell asked that very question for black professional women under the topic of "MANSHARING." Time To Face Facts That Mansharing Hurts Sisters by Mary Mitchell Chicago Sun Times (excerpt) Black women are least likely to marry, according to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. That agency reports that by the age of 30, 81 percent of white women and 77 percent of Hispanics and Asians will marry, but only 52 percent of black women will do so. ......But the appalling statistics regarding black female-headed households, poverty, fatherless children and the skyrocketing HIV infection rates among black women lead me to believe the negative effects of this lifestyle have diminished the quality of life for a lot of black women. For that reason alone, mansharing must be discussed. So can we talk? Mansharing is different from Polygamy (a system of marriages). But Mansharing proves a point I am attempting to make and that is that we have to get beyond this casual love and duality. Polygamy brings black women and her husband into a singularity where the home is more than real estate, more than a breeding ground, but a true standing place where people who come together support one and the other. On point suppose that nearly all of the black women who are currently in jails or likely to be arrested in the near future were in families where their needs and concerns were considered. In such a system black women whould have necessary stuff to do that would be enriching their family or their part of the family. Would those women have time to engage in drugs, prostitution, theft, child neglect, fear of eviction, fear of violence done to them and their children? I think not because the man of the house would be the protector of the family. In this sense black men are the Supra Mother figure of the Black Family. Black Supra Men nuture the family, provide for the common good, develop economic enterprises and provide political counseling for the political entities while maintaing the solidarity of the community and provide the ultimate strength that keeps the family moving forward. Supra Black Men MUST HOLD UP THEIR WORLD!! There is unity in numbers in this sense and the more women a man can provide for , the more human anchoring, ties, bonds, affiliations, relationships, associations, contracts and responsibilities he has and must maintain to continue to enjoy his head of household status. Otherwise he is just a black man who has not access to women and must go to other cultures to feed his sexual lust. Thus no STD's, no children without fathers, no Black women without husbands to see after them, no black on black crime. Home is a haven for the black child thus no abortions. We could empty the jails within a reasonable time and create the employment opportunites for the returning brothers. Married black women and their daughters as well as sons would be protected and watched after by the multiple mothers in the community and of coure within the immediate family extended network thus we could absorb the juvenile gang crisis. Black Supra Men would of course police their families within the context of community and racial uplift. (As your trips to Africa will document, all married women within the same villiage are called"Mother".) Thus in a nutshell the reorganizsation of our people must be our first goal. People renewal or rehabilitation or uplift requires organization that is life long and unbreakable. That's what polygamy becomes when we come together and see each other as people with human needs and not the objects of our desire, solely. Holla
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I don't have an objection to polygomy in the specific traditional social context...but in this country/culture...Black women are already "mansharing"...Which is one of the reasons I don't have a problem with polygamy...Men often have many baby's mothers but no wives...They get to play but not pay...Eat their cake with no responsibility....How would "mansharing" be any different in this dysfunctional cultural/social/political system we are living under in comparison to the current "Baby mamma/dady structure" we have going on now? Women sharing men isn't the issue...it's already being done...How would the men be encouraged to take on responsibility of fatherhood and husbandry?...Or rather...how could we create a socio/cultural environment that encourages responsible behavior instead of discourages it...This environment/system we live under is hostile to our progress. That's the main issue. That is the difference between traditional polygomy(which still exists in most traditional societies around the globe)...and the crap going on now in U.S. society...BTW, why don't we look at the social/marital structures of other African/Black societies abroad that don't suffer from the same level of interpersonal and marital relationship problems African/Blacks born in the U.S. do?...If we examine that...We would see it is the society's political/economic/cultural structure and environment that either encourages and fosters, or destroys stable families...
This is coming from a women who sees NO problem with polygomy in traditional Africa...Since I have been there and studied traditional society at length...I can see how the child rearing and familial responsibilities would actually push me to want my husband to take on a second wife...I'd need the help! It's not a sex issue like it is in the West...It's aboout what will make life better for the group...for the community...We must also remember that before the time of many WIVES there was the time of Many HUSBANDS...Something most people either are ignorant of, or don't discuss...So who is constructing our interpersonal reality on a Western/White/Arab colonially affected paradigm again? IMO interpersonal relationships will continue to be dysfunctional until we rid ourselves of the PRIMARY contradiction...Our exploitation and oppression as African/Black people...This will take organization...but it will take organization beyond the familial level. How are the masses of men...and women going to be "reponsible" in paces like NY where the Black male unemployment rate is 50%? That's a hostile environmental condition for stable families. This society is out of balance. We have to look at causes and effects. Criminals are created, so are dysfuntional families...and not just by "individual behavior" but society also...This "mansharing" doesn't address the root problem. It's like trying to cure and prevent lung cancer by taking kemotherapy, but you still are living in a house of cigarette smoke...It's not going to work. On another note. A lot of the African/Black women I know that are born here limit their options of marriage and dating to Black men born in the states...Why don't we open our pastures to Black men from anywhere?...Africa, the Carribean, South and Central America...Many of these men have been socialized to hold the "traditional" familial structure dear....just a thought.(I'm not throwing the brothers here away...but brothers often date all races/nationalities, and we women often times won't even date African/Blacks from other places...that's just strange and kinda stupid IMO)
Egungun, Egungun ni t'aiye ati jo! Ancestos, Ancestors come to earth and dance! "I'm sick of the war and the civilization that created it. Let's look to our dreams, and the magical; to the creations of the so-called primitive peoples for new inspirations." - Jaques Vache and Andre Breton "Capitalism is the astounding belief that the most wickedest of men will do the most wickedest of things for the greatest good of everyone." -John Maynard "You know that in our country there were even matriarchal societies where women were the most important element. On the Bijagos islands they had queens. They were not queens because they were the daughters of kings. They had queens succeeding queens. The religious leaders were women too..." -- Amilcar Cabral, Return to the Source, 1973    |
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quote: The problem that I have with this perspective is that it chauvinistically blames women (and ultimately their intolerance of the black male's promiscuity and lack of self-control) for all of the problems that black men experience in this country. In other words, if we follow your rationale to the extent that it would leads us, you will have us thinking that African American unemployment, illiteracy, poor education, racism, discrimination, police brutality, etc. can all be attributed to black men not being able to acceptably fuck and marry as many women as they want. This reasoning is not only hogwash, but it insults the intelligence of every member in this forum. All other men in this country can be satisfied with one woman AND keep a damn job AND run his household in impeccable order AND be responsible for himself except black men because they need more than one wife to do this. Give me a fuckin' break. What black men need to do is to stop: (1) Blaming others for their shortcomings. (2) Using women, particularly black women, as a scapegoat to your problems. (3) Coming up with the most ridiculous excuses for why you cannot get yourselves together. (4) Forgetting that many of the KINGS who had many wives could afford it, you can't. Considering the standard of living in America, one can barely support oneself. (5) And finally, grow up, get a tight grip on reality, and stop thinking idealistically about the conditions and circumstances of our society. More importantly, African Americans, (black men especially) must invest their valuable time and efforts into ameliorating issues that will lead to more attainable outcomes. History Fact: Did you know that not all marriages in Africa were polygamous. There were just as many monogamous marriages in Africa and it is incorrect to believe that the success of a family is determined by how many women men can marry and sleep with. Didn't know. Now you know. 
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Todays society of open sex with whomever one pleases is Polygamy. Polygamy is simply leglised promiscuity.
The way forward I believe is arranged marriages. I say the parents marry the brats off early before they know what hit them. By the time they realise what is happening everyone of their age is married and playing away carries severe consequencies _____________________________ |
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quote: Unless you are just being sarcastic, I would not go so far as to apply that description to polygamy because such a definition obviously shows a limited understanding of polygamy and its functional role in some indigenous cultures. Oshun has already accurately covered the cultural context of polygamy so I will not discuss it further. However, for this guy to make attempts to export only this particular aspect of African civilization without considering how all the other aspects of African civilization are interrelated also shows a limited understanding of polygamy and not to mention an unbelievable ignorance about African Civilizations in general. In fact, I was just having a similar disscussion in the Issues forum about School Vouchers. And what I am noticing is that African Americans, rather than actually digging through a problem, finding its source, and dealing with it, we either run away or ignore it altogether. Therefore, it comes as no surprise that this guy would encourage black women to avoid figuring out why there's a "shortage" of black men (if there is a shortage at all) and to sexually and matrimonally gang up on one good black man who appears to be unspoiled by society (preferrably him). This folks, is not an intelligent response to a problem. What would be more effective is to get black men (those that need it) the help they deserve just as we should get the children being taught in poor performing schools the help they deserve as opposed to cramming them all into a few better performing schools. Another solution would be to team all of the "good brothas" with those that are in need (this is an example of cooperative learning used in the Education field) where low achieving students are paired with high achieving students. What black youth require is to see, and to be exposed to, on a continual basis, examples of excellence. More importantly, the last thing that black women (as well as black girls) should be encouraged to do is to lower their standards and expectations for love and intimacy in order to accommodate, or worse, defer to the shorcomings of black men. Why should black women settle for fragmentized relationships because you all can't get your acts together? When will you deal with your issues rather than expecting everyone else around you to put up with them?
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What really upsets me about this person's post and attitude is that it reflects the culturally conditioned thoughts that people generally have about African Americans in terms of what they are worth and what they should expect. People (both blacks and whites) are culturally conditioned to believe that black people are inferior, that we should just accept anything. Consequently, black people have developed low expectations of themselves and these low expectations are transferred onto the people to whom we relate, especially other blacks. This is why the poster has lost faith in the black male's ability to become responsible and has suggested for black women to simply lower their standards in order to accommodate their shortcomings. Sadly, many African Americans remain locked in a state of stagnation and hopelessness because we think that we cannot do any better than what we are doing today. Since birth, everyone that we meet has low expectations of us (teachers, parents, peers) and so we carry around this baggage of hopelessness and poor performance everywhere we go and in everything we do.
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quote: Breaking Manchild's post down to his own comments, his ideas are not out of line and I think he knows what polygamy is really about. Actually, I don't think it's a bad idea, but not viable in the US. It would take a massive change of mindset and mores. Our priorities would have to be totally reorganized- a brother would have to choose between a new Lexus or wife #2. He would also have to be strong enough, commanding enough to maintain peace within his compound (?). I know plenty of young black men think they could handle that, but could they? |
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quote: Rowe, you are right on point. I applaud you... |
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Why are we so vertically dismantled as a people?
You know I have been around awhile and I am not suprised that so many of us get so emotional when we see or hear about new items or new ways of thinking about ourselves and what we do. I challenge my group to come up with a viable solution about the lower class population in which we the so called have made it class ,have left behind. How do we pull them up and into our world? Whats is gonna take? Are we simply mouthing out platitudes and pious babble of things taught us by an alien race and for which we have no serious study in the understandingand application of ? Are we truly in a Nigger box where culturally we are afraid to step out and up and lend a helping hand to those who we have left behind in our pursuit for happiness? Do any of you truly understand that if you take on responsibility for another life, you must remain committed for the rest of your natural life? How do we send signals to the rest of our population that we are committed for the great challenges we have ahead of us if we don't marry those who we are trying to help and in turn help their offspring? Rowe thinks that polygamy is hogwash and that black men should be like other men and keep the flame of marriage alive within the black family as it has been formatted. Rowe thinks that the deviant status of so many black men and women incarcerated, and living marginal or squalid lives of quiet dispair is the fault of black men not stepping up to the plate. Rowe thinks that black men, self included, recklessly useblack women as a scapegoat to our collective problems. Rowe is quite mistaken and others who feel similar to Rowe are caught in a ever tightening world of shrinking understandings, not expanding understandings. Rowe is wrong and here's some reasons why he is wrong, terribly wrong. In the first instance, Rowe says that black men should be like other men. Rowe is not aware that other men, unlike Black men, have not had a history of degradation, dehumanization, or brutal beatings from the womb to the tomb for several hundred years. Rowe does not recognize that unlike other men who freely can go home to their native land,we the blacks have not seen fit to develop our ties with our Black Homeland. rowe seems to forget that ties with one's homeland also supplies traditional values gained over eons of trial and error so that we have finally gotten it right? If we should be like other men, Rowe,what about cherishing blackness as history and tradition and what about being unique like other men cherish their uniqueness? Are you saying, that we should vanish our blackness and our traditions and wear the mask of lies and frowns "attempting to be like other men? What Rowe seems to forget, or has yet to truly learn is that black men have a right to be the cultural paragons of blackness. This is no calvinistic attempt to reduce the black woman in to an underling. No further from the truth would be this assertion that black men are free to choose. Both are lies unless black men are deciding what to do not simply doing because they were taught this or that in the image of others. Black men have to have a realistic vision of them selves, and they surely are not getting a real vesion of themselves as lackies to this white culture with its fendish hold on the morals and opinions of blacks. Thus Rowe is blinded by his acceptance of traditional white cultural family values. Rowe is simplistic when he asserts that black men would simply want to have intercourse and marry as many black women as they can stuff in a box like the Old Woman who lived in a shoe. Life is not about parroting what your historical enemy have force fed into your African mind. Life is about the possibilities that we can accomplish together, united, in concern for each and the other. Life is about caring and sharing issues which we have in common. Life is about compassion for those who are hurting. Life is about saving those who would be saved as they would save us if we were in their condition. Rowe is wrong about so many things. For example, Rowe says that one can barely support oneself, let alone other wives. That is Rowe's intellectual limitation and that is what Rowe has learned by being individualistic and materialistic. "Do for self" is the individualistic psychology of those who want to blame the victim. Such a notion is like a crab in the bucket mentality by intention: I pulled myself up now you do the same, or got mine- you get yours.It is as if a white man is sitting in rowe's head telling him to disagree with blackness in all forms and embrace only whiteness or death. Further, Willie Lynch is alive, well and thriving in a brain such as Rowe's unknowingly. I know he thinks not. Rowe thinks that the White man's ice is colder than what a black man can come up with. That's the impetus in his "do as others". Who is he talking about? Who could he be talking about when blacks are doing so poorly and whites are holding their own? You do the math. Ultimately, Rowe and I are going to have more to discuss. Perhaps he may want to know just how far Polygamy reaches into the very core of of alemorating the worsening conditions of blacks in America. Perhaps not. But I know of one truth that I have learned in all my years on this planet and it is a surety: When someone gives you an opinion and you emotionally disagree, think about how you reacted and ask your self, "would a white man who hated me want me to act against myself?" If you were honest enough to acknowledge this first thought embedded in most unlearned or illogical black minds as a form or vestiage of the slave asthetic then you have begun the long transition in removing the traces of Willie Lynch in yourself. Think Black! Be Black! Work for Blackness! Holla
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Truthfully, after giving it some thought, I've surprised myself by realizing that I'm not against polygamy. I don't really think it's appropriate for America's often superficial ideals, but when viewed as a cultural or religious tradition, I find nothing wrong with it. In Islam, a man is allowed to marry up to four wives, but ONLY if he is capable of dividing his time and assets equally between all the women. If he can't do this, he must only have one wife at a time.
Back in the days when my eyes would inadvertently catch glimpses of trashy talk shows, I'd see the stories of men with 8 or 9 wives, and they all lived together happily somewhere out in the boondocks. If we're not talking cultural or religious standards, then I think it should be a personal preference. Some people, especially women, simply don't mind sharing a man. I don't consider it 'lowering yourself' if you are truly happy in that situation. Perhaps it provides a sense of security and familiarity among them; I'm not one to judge (too harshly,anyway). ***************************************************** "There's no original evil left in the world. Everyone's just recycling pain." -Keith Ablow, Projection ***************************************************** |
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I have to jump in here for a minute . . .
It seems that polygamy is not a solution for anyone but the male of the relationship---it is only an excuse to have a socially acceptable form of infidelity. The problem is infidelity itself in the first place----we as Black women do not need someone else's man to love and care for us, we only need for our own man to love and care for us and put our relationship and family first---before his school boy whims, middle age crisis, temptations, and ego trips. As far as polygamy is concerned, that is what we have now----that is exactly why the Black family is in such dispair; though its unofficial, not socially condoned in this country as in others, that is what is going on and is one of the major contributors to the Black family decline----the majority of men in this country, particularly Black men have no sense of monogomous commitment to one woman and his own children, and it is the lack of the amount of committment that a father should show to his children, any and all of the children that he brings into this world, that is the problem. The majority of Black/African American women have proven their committment to family and to any and all children that they bring into this world---it is more often than not the African American female that remains loyable to her parental responsibility to her offspring regardless of the relationship that she has with the father (or fathers, as the case may be)--- What men need to do is take the amount of responsibility as well to their children---and to any and of their children. Black men have wives that they are unfaithful to--disbursing their time that should be spent with their family all around the place: with the mistress(es), hanging out, putting himself first. It is the Black male attitude that has to change. It is not really a question of polygamy or even a question of marriage-or any ritual that a male performs---but, the committment and attitude he has toward is offspring---whether they are children he and his wife have together or if he is not married and has a child with a woman or children with more than one woman. If a man refusest to spend the time and money on any or all of the children that he brings into this world, it is the child that suffers emotionally, mentally, and economically---and there lies the problem---not a ritual (rituals in the case of polygamy). There are too may African American men out there who have not paid their child support or do not pay child support, yet have money to take another woman out on a date (potentially leading to yet another child that he will not support or spend time with). There are too many African American men out there who are wearing timberlands and 200.00 Nike, yet have not paid child support or spent the time it took the to make those purchases with their child(ren). Contrastly, more likely when the African American mother has expensive shoes, so do her children, regardless----and she usually is the one that is spending the time with her children regardless of whatever else she is doing or has going on in her life (I know that there are some exceptions, but they are far less that the rule). So I say, Forget about polygamy, and start to practice birth control and safe sex yourself----commit to the children and wife/baby mamma/baby mammas that you do have---practice planned parenthood as well, do not just leave it up to the woman---and most importantly, look at the man in the mirror and ask youself if you are taking care of and spending as much time with, and putting first, before yourself, your whims, your own children, are you treating your children they way you were treated growing up or the way you feel that you should have been as a child. |
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Reply to Manchild:
From the onset, before we delve too deep in this discussion, let's at least acknowledge that polygamy in America is illegal and it will never be legalized. Therefore, instead of wasting your energy convincing us to convert to a societal standard that will never be realized in this country, why not develop and implement solutions that are more attainable? That is my argument in a nutshell and is the reason why I normally avoid hypothetical discussions like these. You might as well make an argument for why blacks cannot simply get into a spaceship and fly away. I do not subscribe to escapist and/or idealistic theories and I don't intend to today. But that essentially is the heart of the problem in many issues pertaining to blacks; our conversations tend to be too rhetorical and impractical, often times leading nowhere. Just recently, I was talking to this person who was interested in going on and on about why America cannot be a socialist instead of capitalist society. She finally became fustrated with my lack of interest in entertaining her whimsical idealism. Why do we resist dealing with, accepting, and processing reality? The reality is that we are not in Africa and the social and cultural systems in Africa are very much different from those in America. This will never be a socialist and class-less society and whether polygamy is a remedy or right in your opinion, it will never be legalized. Therefore, this is the starting point of reality in which we need to build upon our solutions. Secondly, black women have endured the same degree of humiliation and other forms of dehumanizing treatment black men have endured (and some would argue that our suffering is constant and because at least in America, men respect men). Yet despite the obvious gender inequality and discrimination (social and economic discrimination), we manage to muster up the strength and motivation to take responsibility for our children and families, get whatever education and/or trainining that is necessary to live productively in this society, and avoid making excuses and mistakes that would ultimately lead to us and our families' destruction. Third, polygamy is not something that is unique to Africa. I mentioned earlier in this discussion that not all marriages in Africa were polygamous. Chiekh Anta Diop, a major authority on Traditional African social systems, provided research on the classical matriarchal and patriarchal social systems in antiquity. You should check it out. His research revealed that despite what we are made to believe about the African male and his sexual prowess, there were just as many monagamous marriages in Africa as there were polygamous marriages. Therefore, entering and/or accepting a polygamous marriage does not make you any more "black" than the person that does not. More importantly, a man's worth to a community is not measured by the number of women he can marry or the number of families that he can accumulate, but the one woman and one family that he can consistently be responsible for, respect, and love unconditionally. And finally, I would like to challenge your last suggestion "Think Black! Be Black! Work for Blackness!" What exactly does "being black" mean to you? Perhaps if we know this information, then we can get a clearer understanding of your perception of "blackness" and what you are basing this perception of blackness on. In other words, you seem to take for granted a general understanding of the term "blackness," but remember Africa is a huge continent. Recommended Reading: 1. Black Women in Antiquity by Ivan Van Sertima 2. Black Africa by Cheikh Anta Diop 3. African Origin of Civilization by Cheikh Anta Diop
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Here are some excerpts on marriages in southern African rural society:
One of the preconceptions more popularly held by both academics and lay public alike in regard to southern African rural society is that the indigenous family unit is polygamous in nature. This is only partly true. A broad survey of homestead patterns in the region reveals that whilst a number of polygamous settlements may still be found in the rural countryside, these are in a distinct minority, and monogamous marriages appear to be the general norm. It could of course be argued that this is a recent development brought about by the work of Christian missionaries, but the validity of such an assumption needs be questioned. Not only do the Christian churches which enjoy the largest following in southern Africa, the so-called Independent Churches, permit their followers to practice polygamy, but although the practice of polygamy was indeed more prevalent during the last century, its presence was not as widespread as various missionaries way have wished us to believe. Lichtenstein wrote of the Xhosa in 1812 that: "Most of the Koossas have but one wife; the kings and chiefs of the kraals only have four or five." This was reinforced by Alberti who stated, also of the Xhosa, that: "Those with least resources, must be satisfied with one woman, others have two, and rarely more." Contemporary visitors to other parts of the country have come to similar conclusions. Livingstone went one step further and in 1857 estimated that approximately 43% of Tswana men practiced polygamy, and then only a very small minority of these had more than three wives. By 1946 an official census revealed that this figure had dropped to 11% with only 1.3% having three wives or more. The practice of polygamy may, in most cases, be explained in terms of a levirate, a social practice, used to ensure the continued status and survival of widows and orphans within an established family structure. While it is true, therefore, that every rural family is potentially polygamous in nature, we need to question whether such polygamy was the result of "male sexuality and lust", as the missionaries would have it, or merely the enforcement of social obligations intended to reinforce ties between family or clan groupings. Recent data would seem to show that some 27% of rural households are currently headed by widowed or single women. If we were to assume that in the 1850s an equivalent number of women could have become widows and were thus absorbed into the monogamous households of family members, thus making them polygamous, then it will be seen that this form of union could have accounted for most of the polygamous marriages recorded by Livingstone among the Tswana. The remaining group, those with three wives or more, were a distinct minority and their polygamy may be explained in terms of group leaders creating political alliances and gaining control of resources for their own communities. The general trend away from polygamous unions evidenced since 1900 could therefore be explained in two ways. The growth of urbanisation and the establishment of urban-based political structures has brought about a decreased emphasis upon both regional group identity and the power of the traditional and inherited rural leadership. The need for making unions based upon political expediency has thus lessened considerably. The economics of obtaining a bride in the rural areas has also changed substantially over the past five generations, as women also began to enter the ranks of an industrialised and urban proletariat in increasing numbers after the 1930s. The conclusion therefore is that the practice of polygamy may have been common in southern Africa up to the end of the last century but that it was never as widespread as has been popularly represented. |
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We can fairly ascertain from this reading that most groups formed polygamous unions because it was necessary. However, with the type of social system that we have in America and with the amount of wealth that just two people can amass in this country, forming polygamous unions would be unnecessary.
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