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* I think this topic Rowe started in a Sista's Spot is important and shouldn't be confined to the female side. What should the male response be to the issues raised below? *
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OK. I'll start. Among those of us who consider ourselves "Good Men" - educated, employed, responsible, etc. - how many of us volunteer in our communities? If it's true that only a man can teach a boy how to be a man, which of us are involved in mentoring programs that target young black men? And if there are no such programs where we live, who is starting them?
PS: I'll add that if we're visible in our communities obviously doing good doesn't this greatly enhance our chances of finding mates? |
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Great question! Doubt that you'll get an answer right away though. People are usually more content complaining about a problem than they are doing anything about it. |
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Just needed to say though that I didn't mean for my recent thread "How To Get A Man For A Lifetime" to be mistaken as a thread for women posters only. I think our community's problems are something that both Black men and women should work toward solving together.
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A life time with same person?? Day in, day out, day in, day out.
How about just until the kids are finished college?? Thats 25 years then parole for good behaviour. |
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Maybe Rowe is right, but I wanted to shake the dust off this thread hoping to hear some male views on the other dimensions of relationship issues beyond dating.
Blacksanction - aren't you still with the same person after your kids have left college/home? '...all of us who care about the truth must assist you in finding the resources to tell it.' Ken Burns, Documentary Filmmaker. |
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I volunteer at church, but I noticed alot of resistance from single moms whenever their sons seemed to lean on a 'churchdad' for male insight etc. It takes a boy to raise a man, you gotta SEE to BE. |
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Having been blessed with the family I thought I would never have, I believe that one key area that will lend itself to these problems is the strengthening of the black family. I think a lot of the proposed solutions start in the home. One way of doing this is putting good fathers back into the home. I'm not suggesting that women or single women can't but think we would have better results with two parents and positive guidance.
And one way we do this is for men to start rethinking their priorities and goals. I am not saying that every man needs to become a father and a husband, only that if you do be a good one. I've have wanted to mentor and have done a little in the past. But once again, I think this really should start at home. Why should young black men have to find a stranger to find a mentor and role model? They should be in and around their homes. Who better to mentor a young black man then his father, older brother etc? Yes mentoring is good for the mean time but not the long term solution. "¢ Education: Black Men instill in your children that knowledge is power. But also make educating your children a priority. We can save to buy the big screen T.V or cars but fail at saving to send our children to college. "¢ Health: Black Men instill in your children to respect their bodies and don't take it for granted. Make staying healthy a priority. "¢ Economic Empowerment: Black Men instill in you children to respect and manage their money rather then worship it and the things it can buy "¢ Political Activism: Black Men encourage you children to be aware of what goes on in their world. Try to make a difference. Get involved "¢ Faith/Community: Black men instill in your children a belief in something greater then themselves – a higher power. Learn to put God and others before you "¢ Morality vs.Religion. Black men teach your children to have high standards and beliefs. No matter what the religious belief treat others as you would want to be treated. "¢ News Media: Black men teach your children "don't believe the hype". The news is someone else's idea of reality.
_______________________ "Morality cannot be legislated but behaviour can be regulated. Judicial decrees may not change the heart but they can restrain the heartless." Martin Luther King. |
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