Well to lighten the subject a little I thought i might ask you brothers about the dating scene and how u feel about it. Have any of you brothers dated any sistas from other countries, ie the carribean, central, south america, or the continent of africa, or any other group of women other than the sistas in the US, how was the experience if you did and if you havent how do you guys feel about this?

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My wife is from Colombia.

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Yeah I've dated sistas from across the carib., Panama, Belize Benin, France, Guyana, and all across Africa. And I just met,and have been talking to the prettiest little Trini, you,ve ever seen, about 3 weeks ago. For the overwhelming majority, I'd say there good women. Real good women. Friendly easy going, the whole 9. There are a few I might've settled down with if it weren't for one of us going of to school, graduating from school, or just little unexpected things in life. Women from the home continent are very serious and analytical for the most part. Ethiopian and Somali women are VERY dignifed and graceful, and real cool. Being from d.c. you may not know that. When I was at Howard ethiopians as a whole, were reguarded as VERY snotty. I don't know what your experiences are, but in other locations they are actually very friendly.

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I've never dated any but I have met quiete a few. If not for the military and traveling all the time there were some that really caught my attention. Also I didn't know how I would be percieved or accepted so that was a detriment.
Now that I'm about to become a civilian I plan to explore the possibility even further.
Maybe its comes with age but I have really begun to see the real beauty of all sisters.....especially those from other countries



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Current girlfriend is from England, and I've dated Jamaicans... no complaints here.

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lol... and you complain about black women with white men.. lol... Self hater huh?? Can you say Internalized Racism..?? YOUR white GF needs to talk to me!!

You're an idiot. Where do you get the idea that my girlfriend is white?

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Yep, self hater!!!

Sorry to burst your image of the black man and his interracial obsession, but my girlfriend is black.

And it should've been obvious she's black, given that this thread is about dating international black women.

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And it should've been obvious she's black, given that this thread is about dating international black women.

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I'm not trying to be the next Carrie Bradshaw or anything, but I do watch HBO's multiple award-snagging series, "Sex in the city". I tune in religiously (when in season) to commiserate with the show's four, "single white females" who grapple modern relationship issues in the Big Apple. I like the show's colorful characters and the 30-something women who balance career, sex and PMS as good as any 21st century diva. But as I ponder their hilarious dilemmas, I also have to think, "get real."

I know as well as any woman how hard it can be to find the right mate- you know, one with ambition, a good job, an interest in women and a legible road map to a woman's "G" spot. But honestly, how hard can it be for white women? Let's face it, being in the majority does have its advantages. If four attractive, well-connected white women are having a hard time lassoing love in a mega metropolis like NYC, you know it's tight on sisters.

Our biggest problem is that there isn't a whole heck of a lot for us to choose from. Census Bureau statistics show that in 1994, African Americans made up only 12.7 percent of the U.S. population. About 5.5 percent of that are male and of that, it appears that about 4 percent are single or otherwise available. If you are like me, a 30-something woman who dates within the age range of 33-39, that takes the number of available men down to about 3 percent. Now, here's where it gets tricky: I'm a college-educated woman with a pretty good career, so naturally my first instinct is to look for someone with a similar life experience. If you're looking for a college educated black man, age 33-39- the percentage is probably no more than 2.5%. An educated black man with a successful career (and I'm fudging here) probably 1.5 percent. An educated black man with a successful career who is heterosexual –maybe 1 percent.

So, let's say I'm a sister looking for love among 1 percent of the population. Most of this 1 percent can be found in cities and surrounding suburbs with large black populations like Chicago, Atlanta, Washington, D.C., New York, Oakland and Detroit. So what are my chances of finding a single, 33-39-year-old, heterosexual, college educated, successful black man in my area? About .16 percent. Yes, that's one sixth of one percent.

NOW- what are my chances of finding all of this in a man who is ALSO kind, honest, mature, non-commitment phobic and with whom I'm compatible? Uh...you do the math. All I can say is that if they were to do an African American version of HBO's quintessential chick flick, it would have to be called "Sexless in the City."

Given these grim statistics one might ask a sister, "where are the best places to find single, black man?" I read the other day that Home Depot has become the new, meat market for white folks. It's pegged as a great place to find home-owning mates who know their way around a dry wall.

I was there the other day and was surprised to see an attractive brother in the appropriate age-range (see above paragraph) saunter onto my aisle. I was shopping for a new air filter for my heating system and asked his opinion. No, it wasn't a front, I was genuinely in need of help. He was helpful, but seemed a little afraid to make eye contact. Either he was blinded by my beauty or he had a sister or a chubby white girl lurking in the wings with a pocket-sized frying pan.

I've dated a sista of jamaican descent. We've known each other from college.

Being a New Yorker, I was constantly appreciative of international sistas.

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off topic--kind of...

i've always been curious about international black men, i wonder what the world holds outside of the US Black male market...?

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You want to know about us Nykki? There are about 300 million of us. That is a lot isn't it.

We don't mind what you call the strong black woman in America if you care to know because to us that is just the average woman, we can easily handle that. We don't mind the black woman expecting a lot from us because to us that is also natural men and women relationships the world over and therefore expected and so we come prepared with good jobs and high education to help us meet our role.

On the other hand we demand very high standards from our black women. She should preferably be well educated and hold a good job, values she would hopefully pass on to her children. Above all preferably she should have high moral values to qualify to become the mother and Queen of the children and the house.

I notice there are a couple of sisters on the board married to what you call "international black men," ask their opinion but I am confident they would say what I have outlined just about sums it up.

Still curious?

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so there, you have it: no difference at all.

might you consider what's behind "door #3" ...?

"There are two ways of exerting one's strength: one is pushing down, the other is pulling up."
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[This message was edited by afro_geek on December 27, 2003 at 11:57 AM.]

thank you Henry--and yes I'm still very interested!

afro_geek--I'm not sure what the difference you are speaking to is--but I think there has to be a difference in American Black men and Black men from other parts of the country. Society and culture plays a big part in who we are.

The single black men in my datable age range in America seem to want things to come to them, they seem to want things that are easy and will not expect anything of them. I qualify that statement again by saying the "single black men in my datable age range that I've had the opportunity to get to know (from coast to coast)".

I started a thread here in The Den a while ago that spoke about Black Men in this Society because I wonder if what I see coming from my Black American brothers is a societal consequence or if it is cultural, or if its just a man thing.
A lot of insight came from that thread, but I didn't get a feel for men outside of America and their thoughts on the subjects/questions asked.

Personally I do not date outside my race--non black men are not my preference. I am curious about black men outside of America though. The few that I have met (Canadian-Bahamian, and Jamacians) have been extremely respectful, driven, and good down to earth brotha's.

afro-geek-->what's behind door number 3???

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thank you Henry--and yes I'm still very interested!

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Glad to hear that Nykkii. Glad to hear that. To me the western black woman is the best thing since sliced bread. Articulate, charming, hardworking sexy and quite good at looking after themselves, the list goes on and on. It is just incredible the amount of woman you get in the western black woman. It is a shame the western black men can not see a good thing when it is starring them in the face. I say go for it girl and have fun.

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no offence, henry', but can you forcefully articulate one quality that an avg foreign afro male holds above that of his american counterpart?

_"There are two ways of exerting one's strength: one is pushing down, the other is pulling up."
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And so it begins, Nykkii do you see it happening. Now that you declare to look elsewhere the gloves are off, the men are ready to fight. I am not really surprised because I believe most western black men are like mummy's boys that are just spoilt rotten by their women.

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